Today I would like to talk about something most people would rather ignore…. How our emotions affect our weight!
As I said in my previous blog, I was very much an emotional eater! I would turn to food for comfort because it would never disappoint. As time went on, I became more and more dependent on food for comfort than anything else. If I was sad, I would eat to feel happy again. If I was hurt, I would say “Nobody cares about me anyway, so why should I care!” and eat to heal the hurt. When my husband and I would get into an argument, I would eat my anger! It just went on and on…. Until one day, I was sitting on the couch feeling sad (in reality, having a pitty party for myself) because someone I cared about was upset with me…. I felt that little voice inside telling me “It’s okay, just go get an ice cream… it will make you feel better”. Generally I would listen and get in the car and go get an ice cream, but this time I thought “Why am I going to do that when all it will do is make me feel worse (feel like I failed) only causing me to be even more depressed and wanting to eat more!? Why am allowing the way someone feels about me sabotage all my efforts and affect my goals!?”
That time I decided, I was going to stay on track and prove to myself that I don’t need food to make me feel better. I had to break the cycle! I was able to not give in, and the sense of accomplishment and growth I felt afterward cannot even be put into words! I finally recognized that eating my emotions only made things worse… I would get depressed, eat and eat and eat, then feel disgusted with myself causing an even deeper depression and making me eat more!!!! I have done a LOT of growing over the past year and a half learning how to recognize the “triggers” in my life that cause me to fall back into my old ways of thinking and doing. Although I am not perfect, I am better at recognizing these “triggers” and more capable of avoiding the temptation that comes with them. I have to keep telling myself that this is a lifestyle change and if I keep doing what I always did, I will never become the person I want to be. Food is there to fuel our bodies, NOT heal our emotions.
Sometimes we as women are literally RULED by our emotions… after all, we are emotional beings. But, we have to be able to keep our emotions in check and on a healthy level mentally. We must find out the root of the cause that caused us to gain all the weight. Doing this can be very painful as you look back on your life and remember the things that hurt you so bad you couldn’t even verbally express them so you turned to food for comfort. But it MUST be identified in order for that ugly root to be plucked up! Once the root is plucked, it can’t grow anymore and will NO LONGER have an effect on your emotions! The next time your mind is telling you to eat something to make you feel better… think of it as the little devil voice trying to sabotage all the work you have done and get you to fail! Don’t give in! You will feel so much better knowing you can slap that lying voice right in the face and prove to yourself that you are stronger than the emotions that are trying to rule you! Identify that ugly root, and PLUCK it out! Take a Stand and stay in control!
Until next time,